Story telling in career conversations.

In my workshop, “Life Journey Options” participants will walk through their “journey options” via drawing, narrative and story telling. A highly interactive session, they will explore possibilities of what the future might hold for them.

For thousands of years, human beings have used drawing and story telling to share knowledge and tell stories of themselves or others. I find that in career conversations, they are able to relate their past experiences, identify possible actionable items, successes, articulate gaps, learnt lessons, potential derailers and the most important part – their career journey.

A powerful approach to an individual’s career management, I have used this to: 
1) re-positioning a C-Suite from his corporate life to now an entrepreneur (finding his passion after being MSS-sed)
2) identify possible symptoms of sitting on a dyslexia spectrum for a junior manager (he struggles with his job)
3) support job search of a client who has specific niche skills and experience in O&G (she landed a fantastic job with above market salary).

I only have limited five (5) slots between now to end of the month. Please DM me for a confidential discussion.

To your career success
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How to Lose A Friend In 10 Minutes Or Less

Ever sit down with a friend who just started exploring coaching methodology and in a blink of an eye, you became the unwilling participant in the session, and you had to stop it before it gets to a damaging level?

Build rapport

Developing trust needs a lot of work and part of the work is to build rapport. Building rapport creates trust. And trust, is the basic foundation to a success conversations, and in my case, the career conversations I had with many of my clients.

I found a very interesting write up on why developing rapport is essential. From the Training Journal, it mentions that there are 4 elements for facilitative coaching:

  1. Perceived empathy
  2. Trust
  3. Belief
  4. A positivistic setting.

And, one (1) key item that a lot of newbies fail to do is to create “the contract”, basically laying down some basic expectations on what might transpire within the sessions.


The damning experience

These are top 5 experiences that I’d like to share in my several years of having to say “no” to friends who try to make me their unwilling participant:

  1. Do not be an a@@ h@@e for assuming that every single conversation will lead to a coaching moment.
  2. Sometimes, all one need is a simple chat, enjoy the teh tarik with some friends, and people watching.  However, once in a while someone might try to “test” their newfound knowledge by asking the “coaching” questions. You know it from 10 miles away because your friend does not usually talk like that…
  3. Peppering every single conversation by quoting your certification’s lessons and your trainer’s quotes.
  4. By believing that only what YOU have been certified is the ONLY God gospel in helping other people. There are many others who are doing wonderful work, work that works with their clients. I had a friend who told me that her certification is the ONLY recognized certificate in the world and started to dismiss the work of others.

This Post Belongs To Facebok, Not LinkedIn

“I hate my previous job. The boss shouts at me all the time. He allows his blue-eyed boy to come in late and gets great performance review every year. I hate it so much that I resigned. I wish I will get a better job than this crap. And I don’t care what other people say.”

This kind of posting has its place in Facebook, not in LinkedIn. And, you better lock down your profile as well and pray that potential hiring managers or future bosses do not discover your feed.

Still don’t give a sh*t?

Think again.

Unless you plan to retire and live like a hermit with plenty of resources to live on, your postings on social media will be there forever. In fact, your questionable posts and pictures might last longer than you are. Future employers will think twice about hiring you. Behaviour like that are not tolerated. If you had posted something unprofessional like that, chances are, you might do it again.


Pick your battle venue.



To your career success